Wheel Chair Now

 When we interviewed at the new facility, Shelley's acceptance was based up her ability to walk into the establishment.

This was a major concern. Shelley could shuffle with help in July, 2023. If she was having a bad day, could she do it?

We wondered why walking into the place was the stipulation. We have decided since the admission that the new facility didn't want to accept a person who was already bedridden.

Leaving the old facility was a chore! From her room to the car was a long way, but with help, she walked there.

July 10, 2023 We leave friends

By the time we arrived at the new facility, Shelley was worn out. I had asked her on the way, "How are you?" She had replied, "I don't know."

When we arrived, we couldn't get her to move her legs. She was exhausted. The director met us at the door and said, "She needs a wheelchair."

Shelley has been in the wheelchair since then. We were relieved they didn't turn us away. What would we have done then?

As soon as they wheeled her into the new establishment, they placed her in a recliner, and she fell into a deep sleep.

She seems to like the wheelchair, but I hope they get her up now and then to move around. When her dad and I go, we help her up so she can scuffle a few steps.

Sometimes I push her around the place. She'll say, "Let's go."  And often she tries to peddle from place to place with her feet, but she isn't strong enough.

She's been in the new community for a month now, and she has adjusted better than I thought she would.  For that, I thank God. 

I like to include ideas and hints to help people who are going through this journey.

Helpful Hints 

1. Pop in at unexpected times. See how the staff is treating your loved one.  

2. Ask questions. In this new facility, I've had to ask many questions. Who does the laundry? How often? Did the bed get changed?

3. Volunteer to help with an activity if you can. I play the piano and offered to play hymns now and then.

4.Take the staff a few treats. Give them a card with a handwritten note of gratitude. Most of them work hard, and they take care of your loved one. Encouragement is good for them. Compliment them while you are there.